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This post is NOT about a blender.

Hello, It’s meeee!

A life without a blender is a life not lived – Amexa

This past week has been extremely busy for me, both at work and at home.

I moved to a new place last weekend. Anyone who has moved house will be able to understand exactly how hectic it is. The most annoying part is that you don’t realise what you need until you need it. For example, I was all ready to do some cooking, when I realised that the blender available in the house was tiiiiiiiny. I ended up trying to use this miniature blender to cook my basic stew. It took me much longer than it should have AND it was lumpy :(. I was determined not to go through that mess again. My week was busy, so I didn’t get time to go to the shops. I decided to leave it till the weekend. On Saturday, I was all ready to get my blender. I was on a mission. I was going to buy my blender, and cook my stew. But NAH! I got to the shop, and they told me they wouldn’t have the particular one I wanted until the next day, Like really? After all that. The next day, I went back in and I picked up my blender. I have to say that I have never appreciated a blender as much as I do now. I cooked my stew in a short period of time and it was without lumps. We thank God.

Contrary to what you may be thinking, this post is not about a blender!

As I said earlier, I moved house last week. A couple of hours after I got into the new place, not one, but two people had mentioned that they had noticed a change in me. A good change. They basically said that I was a moody cow, and now I’m not. Thanks for the abuse guys, y’all are too kind! Anyways, their comments got me thinking. They were right, not about being a moody cow, but about the fact that I was a little different. I was still the same person, but I was happier. The only thing that had changed was my environment, but it impacted greatly on my happiness. Moving from an uncomfortable situation to a comfortable one, would have an impact on anybody. Environment in this sense doesn’t just refer to the place that you live. Your environment is anything that you surround yourself with. This includes, friends that you keep, places you visit, discussions that you have, people you talk to, words that you speak, words that are spoken to you. It is important that whatever you choose to surround yourself with impacts you positively, and not otherwise. If it does not have a positive impact, then it gats to go.

Unfortunately, there might be some things that we can’t change. While you’re waiting for that to change, focus on the things that you can change. Focus on the other positives in your life. Friends are definitely something you can change. It took me a while to accept this. Sometimes, you keep people in your life because you want to be a good friend, because you feel guilty. You feel bad because you guys have been friends for so and so amount of years. Or because your mum and their mum are besties.  Nah! Go find your own bestie. When it comes to your personal well being, you have to be selfish. You have to love yourself enough to get rid of toxic people. If a situation or a certain person adds nothing but negative vibes to your life, they need to go. Life is too short.

Remember that “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn

Yes, Happiness comes from within. However, the environment that you surround yourself with can affect that happiness. Think about your friends, think about how they speak to you. Do they encourage you or discourage you? How do you feel when you are surrounded by them? Do you feel like they help you to reach your full potential? Are they always moaning about one thing or the other? Have you actually gained anything from them or have they gained from you? Do they want the best for you, even if it means you will be doing better than them?

I saw this quote today on Instagram and I thought it made perfect sense

“Create safe spaces for yourself. Wrap yourself in goodness and warmth and love. Stay surrounded by people who are genuine— think twice if you can’t trust them with your heart. You are allowed to protect your peace. Be mindful and aware of all energy that you allow into your life” – Alex elle

Till next time

-A

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